Technology has changed the rituals of many normal human processes. Has it done so in a way that is better or worse? In my office, clients come in and tell me about their relationships that seem to occur via text messages. This is very different from even a conversation on the phone, no less a real life interaction. I often hear clients complaining that someone special to them only texts and never talks. We have to be aware of our own practices and careful to be mindful of the need to connect “in person.”
Some of what is lacking when we over-rely on technology includes the sensory experiences that enrich real life. We do not smell or touch things we see on the Internet. We do not hear the tone of someone’s voice or the sound of their laughter when we text. These are all important to our human experience.
How much time do we spend on technology and how often do we miss spending ‘real time’ together? How much do we miss simply going outside and engaging in life? Is your balance between technology and others the right mix for you?
Some signs you might be spending too much time engaging electronically include:
· You find it stressful or difficult to talk in person
· Avoiding talking in person and texting instead
· Increased stress in your relationships
· Others complain they are feeling neglected by you or they say they don’t get enough of your attention
· You have decreased time spent in non-technology-related activities
Carefully consider how you use technology and the impact it has on your relationships and your life. If the balance isn’t right, you might need to become more mindful of your practices. Real life time spent with your significant others, your children, and your friends is precious and irreplaceable.